Yesterday I got a call from the clinic asking me when my vials were arriving for my upcoming retrieval. When I informed them that they should already have a vial of my donor in house as I sent 2 over to them for the last treatment there was a nervous silence followed by an "I'll get back to you."
Turns out that their protocol is to thaw 2 vials of ICI no matter whether they need them both or not. They put the sperm through 2 washings for IVF and this kills a lot of them. I still find it hard to believe that with an average count of 23 million they'd need to thaw a second vial.
The worst part of this all was that I wasn't informed that this had happened until yesterday - day 4 of stims.
My donor was out of all product except ART vials which they don't want at the clinic. I also had had a feeling that it might be time to change donors but when the reality set in that I would actually have to select a new one I just wanted to throw up. How on earth would I manage this in just 48 hours??!!
The clinic were apologetic for their oversight in not informing me I was out of vials. They say that they will change their protocol for people using donor sperm and verbally inform them of their 2 vial protocol up front.
I called the Sperm bank and explained my dilemma and they were amazing. They gave me 3 days free full access so that I could make a selection.
With sweaty palms and a slight sense of mourning I said goodbye to my original donor. It was the easiest break up I've ever had... :)
3 hours later, after having put 8 potential matches in my favorite folder I found him! I knew it the minute I read that he had a family already and then saw his picture. I even listened to his entire interview (something I'd never been interested to do before.) I like him so much more than my original choice even.
So what started off as a very stressful day ended up happily with my new and hopefully improved potential donor daddy winging his way to my clinic.
If only finding a boyfriend was this easy!!
I've heard multiple women say that after switching donors they finally were able to get pregnant. I have my fingers crossed for you that he will be "the one" for you!!! ;)
ReplyDeleteWow, a lot to go through in such a short period. I'm glad you were able to find a donor you like so much more...hopefully this is the beginning of success for you!
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